I am currently in an odd situation. I have primary custody of my son who is supposed to see his dad every other weekend and holiday. I have been more than nice and compliant with his childish demands. I have also put up with his smart comments, rude behavior, and disrespect. He was ordered by the court to pay $160/month in child support, yet I am luck to receive $100 every 3-4 months. He lies on his taxes, meaning he is paid under the table as he is his own co-boss. He expects me to take our son the full 6 hours round trip every 2 weeks and he does the return trip, which would seem fair because the contract stated that we split the financial responsibility of travel. He is also responsible for his health insurance which he has never paid. We pay for everything, school, clothes, toys, extras, etc..as a parent should. Why should I be required to waste 6 hours of my busy day traveling when I could give him $15 bucks and make him travel the whole way? Legally I could offer that, but he won't give in. I have done that in the past and kept the text messages of him refusing my money. I am tired of him thinking he can make all the rules. I have primary custody and I reserve the right to make decisions that are best for my son. His dad says I am insensitive, mean, and a bad mom. He says if I can't afford him (because I ask for child support every 6 months) then he will just take him. He can't pay the support, how does he think he will support him? Maybe if he put more effort into his son then his girlfriend and her 3 kids, I would trust him more. I am so frustrated with controlling, mean, bossy, manipulative men. I refuse to be a victim of his bullying. I need to do what's best for us all and that is standing up for myself and not letting him control me anymore. My husband is supportive, but not involved in the drama as of yet, but I think he is about to step in. I have been nice and tried to be the bigger person, but it's gotten me nowhere. I pray for his father and them all quite often and I just want my prayers answered. I want peace and I want my son to see his father in Heaven.
